Our farewell weekend was all we hoped and imagined it could be...except that Benjamin and his family were unable to be there because they were moving into their new house that weekend! Beckett was asleep and Reagan was in Texas moving with her Mom & Dad.
We decided that since we would miss Thanksgiving, we should celebrate it the day before our farewell. So we had Turkey and all the trimmings, plus the kids talent show on Saturday October 27th. It was delicious and proved to be very helpful the next day, Sunday the 29th, our farewell day, as we did not need to prepare any food and had awesome left-overs!
My three beautiful daughters sang, "The Olive Tree," after my talk and many people expressed how much they appreciated the message and touching delivery.
On Sunday afternoon after church we gathered as a family to share a treasured experience as Garrett blessed our newest family member, Dallas Reddick Hall. He is such a joy! His blessing was beautiful and a sweet reminder of his namesake, my Father, Dal.
Before Matt & Abigayle and Jordan, Danielle and family had to leave, we gathered in front of the pool in the back yard for a family picture.
Here are our farewell talks if you want to read them..............(I totally understand if you are, like, oh I am sure! Someone out there might want to read them though - maybe our son Ben who couldn't be there. Grab a snack, you'll be here awhile!
Marilynn's talk
With the Mormon religion in the national news these days,
the commonly asked question, “Are Mormons Christian?” is getting constant
attention.
Jeffrey R. Holland an
apostle in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints recently clarified to
a group of national Christian leaders, (quote)“You
and I share so many concerns about the spread of pornography and poverty, abuse
and abortion, ….cruelty, crudity, and temptation, all glaring as close as your
son or daughter’s cell phone. Surely there is a way for people of goodwill who
love God and have taken upon themselves the name of Christ to stand together for the
cause of Christ and against the forces of sin.”
He went on to testify, “We believe in the historical Jesus who walked
the dusty paths of the Holy Land and declare that He is one and the same God as
the divine Jehovah of the Old Testament.
We declare Him to be both fully God in His divinity and fully human in
His mortal experience…We testify that in fulfilling the divine plan for our
salvation, He took upon Himself all the sins, sorrows, and sicknesses of the
world, bleeding at every pore in the anguish of it all. We declare that three
days after the crucifixion, He rose from the tomb in glorious immortality,
thereby breaking the physical bands of death and the spiritual bonds of hell,
providing an immortal future for both the body and the spirit, a future that
can be realized in its full glory and grandeur only by accepting him.. and His
name is the only name among men, whereby we may be saved.” Close quote)
In today’s world, It is not sufficient to believe these
truths, we must know them! The Savior
himself taught:… ….And this is life eternal …..to KNOW thee
the only true God and Jesus Christ whom thou hast sent. (John 17:3)
How can we KNOW him?
In this distracting world that demands our attention and conformance
with every turn, how exactly do we go about that?
Christ himself offered the answer……, “Search the scriptures;
for in
them ye think ye have eternal
life; and they are they which testify of me.”
(John 5:39)
In this spiritual
search for knowledge we are taught that the information we seek should “be written
not with ink, but with the Spirit of the living God; not in tables of stone, but
in fleshy tables of the heart.” 2nd Cor.3:3
By searching, not just
reading, the scriptures, as
counseled, we can come to KNOW and FEEL Christ’s love for us in our minds and in our hearts by three
significant ways.
Number 1) Frequent
and constant exposure.
Number 2) Ponder
and treasure the word of God until it reaches your heart.
Number 3) Courageously following promptings.
Number1)Frequent and constant exposure builds a familiarity and understanding that
allows scripture to move from just reading words to touching our hearts in
profound ways.
The Scriptures are the language of God, and as we frequently
fill our minds and hearts with sacred words, they will become the way the Lord
will answer our prayers.
The most humbling and intimate example of this came at a
time when I was making the most important decision of my life. My husband and I had known each other for
three years and twenty three hours after his return from his mission, He finally asked me the big question. In the moment I said yes …….immediately
…….because it was what I wanted….. however,
as the days passed I felt overwhelmed with the enormity of making a decision
that would last for eternity and desperate to know God’s will in an undeniable
way. I remember vividly going downstairs
in my childhood home to a quiet place where I could stay undisturbed until I
had an answer and knew His will without question. I remember thinking I would
continue my prayer and fasting until I understood, with perfect clarity, the
spirit whisper yes or no to whether I should marry him. I recall praying until my knees hurt,
stopping and then starting again, and finally sitting in the dark of the room and
just listening. After a time, clear,
unmistakable words of scripture came into my mind, “Did I not speak peace to
your mind concerning the matter?” I have never forgotten those words as if they
were being spoken inside of my heart and head at the same time. I opened my scriptures and found that the
next phrase after those words are: “What greater witness can you have than from
God?” I testify that the Scriptures are the language of God, and the more
familiar we are with them, the more we will hear his voice!(D&C 6:23)
The scriptures
underscore: “I, the Lord, … will be a light unto them forever, that hear my
words” (2 Ne. 10:14)
“It is I that speak; … I am the light which shineth in
darkness, and by my power I give these words unto thee. …
Number 2) Ponder, and treasure until the word of God
reaches your heart.
Referring to the
scriptures, the Savior instructed the prophet Joseph Smith, and all who would
follow the Lord…. Hearken ye to these
words. Behold, I am Jesus Christ, the Savior of the world. Treasure these
things up in your hearts, and let the solemnities of eternity rest upon your
minds. (Doctrine and Covenants 43:34)
The Book of Mormon depicts a dream or vision which was given
to an ancient prophet named Lehi. His vision is analogous to our day in that
there were concourses of lost people wandering in strange roads and filthy
water trying to find God. Amid the
darkness, there was a path that led to a beautiful tree, a fountain of living
water, and the sweetest, whitest fruit he had ever seen which represented the
perfect love of Jesus Christ. On the side of the path there was a rod of
Iron that symbolized the word of God or scriptures! The people holding on tight
to that rod, clutching with all their strength through the distractions and
temptations were able to make it to the tree and taste the fruit, whose fruit
was desirable to make one happy. Lehi
tasted of the fruit and said,(quote) “I beheld that it was most sweet, above
all that I had ever before tasted. Yea,
and I beheld that the fruit thereof was white, to exceed all the whiteness that
I had ever seen. And as I partook of the
fruit thereof, it filled my soul with exceedingly great joy.”
I remember as a young mother reading that story to my
children from the Illustrated Book of Mormon series. I had read the Book of Mormon multiple times
and been exposed to the story about Lehi’s dream so frequently that I thought I
understood any lessons to be found there. ……. but for some reason as I looked
at the artist’s depiction this time
of the white and radiant tree of life, and shared it with my beautiful,
trusting, little children, the Holy Ghost testified to my heart for the first time that it was true! I felt it, with emotion that overwhelmed me,
instead of just knew the information in my head. I actually felt the reality of the love of
Jesus Christ for me and every one of you and knew with perfect certainty that
there was nothing in this world more desirable than his love. My children looked at me questioningly as I
could no longer read! To their worried questions, “What’s wrong, Mommy?” I could only say, hugging them close, “I’m
not sad, I’m just so happy because……this story is true…and it came from Jesus
who loves us so very much! ……….A very
familiar story that I treasured enough to share with my precious children had
finally reached my heart!
Number3) Courageously
follow promptings.
The promptings and impressions received while searching the scriptures
may change the course of our lives. If
we follow unfailingly, we will be trusted with greater light and direction.
Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let
him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. (D&C 93:19) (Matthew 16:24)
A perfect example of this is the story of my great great
great grandmother Maria Susanna Merrick Maddison. She was born in Windsor Castle. Her Father’s official title was: royal purveyor of vegetables; an esteemed position held during the reign of
several monarchs. She was afforded every privilege living in the castle. She married Sir John Maddison, an English squire;
who was landed gentry, from a highly respected social class.
Maria’s second child, Rosina died at twenty months, without
having been christened. Their minister would
not provide a burial service for her. In
an angry exchange with grieving parents he ranted, “hell is paved with babies
who have not been christened!” Maria Susanna suffered desperately after her baby’s
death until she met a woman who told her that she had joined a church that
believed that one would see their loved ones again in Heaven and that families
could be together again after this life.
Her husband John would hear nothing about the rogue and low
class church called “The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.” He would lose his title and his land if he or
his family did not stay faithful to the
Anglican church. Secretly, Maria
and her three children, Flora, Frank and Herbert met with the
missionaries. After concentrated prayer
and studying the Scriptures with an intense desire to know the will of God,
Maria could not deny the feelings in her heart.
With great trepidation, but certainty in her commitment to follow Jesus
Christ, she and her three children were baptized. They were able to keep their membership a
secret from John for two years, but when he found out, he was livid and told
her he would cut her off without a shilling.
She was told she would have to choose between living with him and her
new church. Maria chose to follow Christ. With a fearful heart but committed
spirit, she decided to immigrate with her three children to America and join
with the Saints there. Her two sons,
Frank and Herbert were, at the time, studying at Oxford University with their father’s
financial support. They left their
education to assist their Mother in her trek to a new world, leaving privilege,
position and wealth. Harrowing and terrifying experiences awaited them in
crossing the ocean for 9 weeks, then crossing the plains from Council Bluffs
Iowa to Salt Lake City, Utah, eight months from the time they left
England. My daughter, Marianne, has
written the following poem to honor her courageous ancestor. I apologize to those of you who have already
heard me read this poem.
Maria Susannah Merrick Maddison
By Marianne Monson
My great, great,
great-grandmother was born in a castle.
Windsor castle:
crumbling stone
walls,
covered with ivy and
importance.
She traded the castle
for a white-washed chicken coop
in the Salt Lake
valley,
where she dug up Sego
Lily bulbs
with the hands of a
lady,
white and soft.
How does one get used
to a chicken coop
after living in a
castle?
How does one who
learned to dance
and do needlepoint,
learn to make soap
from lye
and gather buffalo
chips?
When she left England,
she had never brushed
her own hair.
I picture her awkward
fingers,
pulling the comb
through;
plaiting the strands
for the very first
time.
On her journey, she
brought a tea cup:
airy hand-painted
roses
circling thin porcelain.
Did she display her
tea cup
in the chicken coop,
do you suppose?
And did she ever look
out of her chicken coop
and think of the
castle she left behind?
And did she ever
regret it—her sacrifice?
I believe she must
have.
Sometimes.
On dark days
when there were few
Sego Lily bulbs to be found.
But I hope she can
see me now,
telling the story to
my children.
Whispering it into
their soft ears,
pointing at her
picture,
faded and creased
with time.
I hope she can hear
me say,
“This is your great,
great, great, great-grandmother,
who was born in a
castle
and moved to a
chicken coop
because of her
faith.”
And I hope someday I
can tell her,
wherever we are,
“I don’t know how you
did that—
carried a tea cup
across an ocean and into a wilderness,
without even a
crack.”
And then I will ask
her, “How can something that seems so frail and delicate,
in the end become so
strong?”
Maria Susannah made the sacrifices she did because as she
read the scriptures and prayed for guidance, she came to know and feel the love
of Christ. That irrefutable knowledge
changed the course of her life, indeed became the guiding motivation to “Follow
him, no matter what and no matter where.
Five years ago, at the suggestion of President Anderson to
set a date to serve a mission both Dwight and I felt strong impressions from
the Spirit that we should commit to each other and to the Lord to go on a
mission in the Fall of 2012. As we
committed to that course in repeated prayers, we saw miracles happen in our
lives to make it possible. One by one events transpired until our path was
opened and we felt compelled to keep our promise to the Lord to go.
It is not without sacrifice.
We are so sad to leave our family, friends and our comfortable life that
we love here in Saint George, …..but we
want them to know that though we will miss them so much…..Jesus said, He that
loveth father or mother…… son or daughter more than me…… is not worthy of me.
Though we leave with some trepidation, Christ promised,
“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will
strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right
hand of my righteousness. (Isaiah 41:10)
I know that Jesus Christ lives, that he died for me and you,
that his arms are outstretched still and always, that he stands at the door
beckoning us to welcome him into our hearts and lives, that he will return
again in glory, and that the way to KNOW him is found in the scriptures through
constant searching, pondering and courageously following promptings from the
Spirit……
Until we meet again,
and in the sacred name of Jesus Christ, Amen
Dwight's talk:
Mission Farewell
I.
It
was Mark Twain who observed, “It’s not the things we don’t know that get us in
trouble; it’s the things we do know that just ain’t so.”
a. As witnesses for Jesus Christ and members
of his true church, we stand before the world and boldly testify, “We know
certain truths”
b. In a post-modern world that embraces skepticism
and relativism, where absolute truth does not exist, our assertion of knowing
must seem strange
c. Many are skeptical. How do you know
these things are true?
d. Or to put it in Twain’s vernacular,
how can we be sure that what we hold to with such certainty “just ain’t so?”?
e. With your indulgence, I would like to
answer that question with a personal reference and in the process address the
main reason Marilynn and I have chosen to serve a mission
II.
I
grew up in loving home, the 5th of 6 boys, no girls.
a. In my family, no one ever complained
about what’s for dinner
b. There were too many hungry boys more
than willing to consume my portion and theirs, too.; it was survival of the
fittest
c. Dinner was often accompanied by lively
discussion
d. We regularly debated everything from
politics and religion to science, human nature and the philosophies of men
e. In those family discussions, I
learned to question everything
f. As I approached my mid-teens, 2 of my
older brothers had stayed close to the church and gone on to serve missions; 2
had not
g. At 16, I was deeply skeptical of all religion,
doubting the very existence of God
III.
One
night, I found myself in the company of a young woman; somehow the conversation
turned to religion; I shared with her many of my questions and doubts
a. She listened patiently, and then
said, “You know, Dwight, I have many of those same questions, and I don’t know
most of the answers. But this is what I know: When I do what is taught in this
church, I am happy; and when I don’t, I am not.”
b. As a self-styled rationalist and
empiricist, I was struck by two aspects of her response
c. First, I could test her proposition
in my own life; I did not have to accept the assertions of others. Though only
16, I had experience enough to test the validity of her statement
d. Second, if the proposition were true,
it struck me that it was probably not by chance
e. If true, there was likely a higher
power that designed the world to be so and revealed His designs and purposes to
leaders who, in turn, imparted these truths to others
f. I pondered this proposition for the
better part of two weeks, sifting through specific incidents in my life with an
honest heart; testing this idea as thoroughly and objectively as I could
g. At the end of that two weeks, I
concluded my friend was correct
IV.
Later,
I realized, as described by Alma, that I had planted seeds mostly based on
teachings of my parents and thus of the church
a. Some had begun to swell and sprout,
producing moments of peace and joy
b. Of course, this did not produce an
immediate testimony in me, but at 16, I began to pray with faith and real
intent
c. In time, sweet answers came, borne of
the spirit, providing a powerful witness and further enlightening my mind
V.
Then
at 19, I was called to serve a mission
a. In retrospect, now 60 years of age, I
see that that mission was the most shaping experience of my life
b. While interacting with people from
all walks, I saw first-hand the results of good and bad choices
i. I saw the devastation and heartache
of adultery; the insecurity and burdens resulting from pre-marital sexual
relations
ii. I saw the blessings of getting a good
education, of being honest in all one’s dealings, of serving others generously
iii. I observed the power of family, both
good and bad, to bless lives or produce lifelong challenges for individuals
iv. I saw the crippling curse of
addictions; the empty lives of people searching for something, but not knowing
where to look for purpose or hope
c. I also saw imperfect people striving
to change; investigators taught correct principles, who then had courage and
faith to apply these principles in their lives
d. I beheld the fruits of repentance and
obedience to God’s teachings, as described by the Apostle Paul: love, joy,
peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance
(Galatians 5:22-23) and those fruits were all good
e. What I really witnessed is the wisdom
of an all-powerful, all-loving God who created this world with both physical
and moral laws
f. Surely, “There is a law, irrevocably
decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all
blessings are predicated. And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by
obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.” (D&C 130:20-21)
g. As my wife and I raised our 5 children, we
tried to emphasize, “Do this, and it will bless your life.”
h. It is most comforting to know, in
advance, certain seeds will grow and begin to be delicious to the souls of our
children, because this church teaches the laws upon which all blessings are
predicated.
VI.
As
members of this church, we realize we have no corner on access to blessings
that flow from obedience to correct principles and laws.
a. Because they are laws established by
a loving God, correct principles bless the lives of people of all faiths and of
no particular faith
b. For example, without a doubt, the
most powerful testimony of tithing I have ever heard was borne by a woman of no
particular faith, but who noticed the principle of tithing while reading her
Bible
i. She spent an inordinate amount of
time researching charitable organizations to learn which ones got the money
most effectively to those whose lives she wanted to bless
ii. She told me of how her business had
prospered and her life had filled with happiness since she had begun to pay 10%
of her gross income to support worthy charitable organizations
iii. She stated matter-of-factly that she
would never think of not paying 10% of her income because it had produced such
blessings in her life
c. Likewise, the sweetest description that
I have yet encountered of the joy that accompanies Sabbath-day worship came
from a book written by a devout Jew, Hermann Wouk, in “This Is My God.”
i. Wouk wrote, “If one were to ask me
what I love most about my Jewish faith, I would answer without hesitation, ‘the
Sabbath.’”
ii. He then went on to describe how this
day is filled with worship and family, reflection and scripture reading; all
producing joy and setting it apart from every other day of the week
d. Testifying of the effects of God’s
laws, on September 17, 1859, in Dayton, Ohio, Abraham Lincoln inscribed the
following words in a Bible belonging to Miss Annie Harries, “Live by the words
within these covers and you will be forever happy.”
VII.
Knowing
that these laws operate unfailingly, do we take full advantage of the powerful
gifts and blessings provided by the Lord and taught by church leaders?
a. Do we regularly feel the joy of FHE, of
home teaching and visiting teaching, of complying with the Word of Wisdom, of tithing,
of temple worthiness?
b. Have you recently felt the joy of
praying so long that you did not want to cease praying?
c. When was the last time you read the
scriptures so regularly and so in depth that you couldn’t wait to immerse
yourself in them again?
d. Have you gone through the temple
recently and felt the power of the temple going through you?
e. Have you sensed, in wonder and awe,
the supernal goodness and greatness of God, proclaiming in your soul, as Moses,
“Now for this cause I know that man is nothing, which thing I never had
supposed”? (Moses 1:10)
VIII.
I
stand before you today a flawed and imperfect man.
a. As I reflect back through my years in
mortality, I know my life has been blessed with peace and joy to the degree I
have conformed to teachings of the gospel
b. Conversely, my joy has been
diminished to the extent I have strayed from God’s laws; for “Wickedness never
was happiness” (Alma 41:10)
c. Humbly, I bear my witness to all who
will hear
d. I know God lives; He is the father of
our spirits; He loves us with a perfect love
e. I know Jesus is the Christ, my
personal Redeemer and Savior and yours; he has purchased our souls with his
precious blood
f. I know Joseph Smith was his prophet;
an instrument in the hands of God to restore his true church and priesthood and
to bring forth the Book of Mormon, a second witness of Jesus Christ
g. I know this church is led by Jesus
Christ, himself, through living prophets, seers and revelators; President Thomas
S. Monson is the oracle of God on earth today
IX.
The
glorious gospel of Jesus Christ is not only the plan of salvation and the plan
of redemption; it is also the plan of happiness and joy, in this life and in
the life to come
a. The longer I live, the more I realize
how few things I really know, but these few things I know and they are just so
b. I know them by the power of the
spirit
c. I know them by the operation of God’s
laws in my life and in the lives of others
X.
Knowing
these precious truths and knowing that God’s laws bless lives, Marilynn and I
feel a desire to share this joy with as many as possible.
a. In two weeks, we will leave behind
family members, the good people of this ward and community as well as other
friends and loved ones for 18 months
b. We will travel to the West Indies, devoting
full-time service to sharing the joy of the gospel with a people of a different
culture and a different race, but all children of God and therefore our
brothers and sisters
c. We will invite others to bring all
the good found in their faith and traditions and let us add to that good from
the restored gospel of Jesus Christ.
d. Our hearts are deeply grateful for
circumstances that permit us to serve
e. Today, the words of the prophet Alma
as recorded in the 29th chapter of Alma in the Book of Mormon capture the feelings of my heart:
f. “Yea, and this is my glory, that
perhaps I may be an instrument in the hands of God to bring some soul to
repentance, and this is my joy. And behold, when I see my (brother or sister)
truly penitent, and coming to the Lord their God, then is my soul filled with
joy; then do I remember what the Lord has done for me…then do I remember his
merciful arm which he extended towards me.”
XI.
Brothers
and sisters, the God we worship is a God of covenants, a God of truth;
a. Amazingly, the most powerful being in
the universe is bound to bless us, when we do as he asks; but when we do not,
we have no promise. (D&C 82:10)
b. Of these precious truths I humbly
bear witness… in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen
We took a picture of the originals......minus Benjamin!
